I spent the major part of today entering the data of a marriage survey of pastors. I have not begun the analysis part of it yet but going through the forms, one of the most common challenges faced in their marriages is Communication. Which is not very surprising to me, or maybe a part of me is saying in a small voice "I told you so". My pet peeve with people I work with is that they do not communicate enough. I have to admit that I am also guilty but I do work hard with people I like and even harder with people I love. So many times, I send out emails and people cannot even be bothered to reply. When they don't reply, and I have to follow up with multiple phone calls to obtain their response to my email, I want to say, "!@#$%^&** you read my email, why didn't you just reply yes or no, you *()%^&*???" Alas, in my dreams. But truly I get very frustrated because these are the people who deal with people and if you cannot make the time in the most basic of ways, then why be where you are and do what you do???!!!

What I mean is communication takes effort. Sometimes the tiniest bit of effort makes or breaks someone's day. But the lack of it, compound it by days, weeks and years will break your marriage or relationship or ministry. My utmost regret is when I lost someone I loved very much but then I did not even realise how much I loved him until I lost him and I wish so that I had talked and invested more and made it known to him I loved him back as much as he loved me. Aun's mom is of old school and when I was a young mother she advised, "..must be firm with children, we love in our heart enough otherwise they will climb on your head and shit" but I have always.... talked *a lot* ever since. I shall probably be worse with my grandchildren.